The first step in attaining a state of irresistablity is to eliminate desire.
Actually, you don’t really have to eliminate desire – you just have to control it. This is an important distinction. While the actual results are often the same – ensnaring your prey – actually eliminating desire has two distinct downsides. The entire process becomes a lot less fun. And you lose your edge – that thin sliver of burning motivation that makes you bold and confident.
So why is this important? The clip below describes the process in a most amusing manner. But in summary: Nothing is less attractive as desperation. Nothing is more attractive as that which is hard to attain.
By the way – gender doesn’t have a lot to do with the general principle behind this idea; in fact, most thoughts along these lines can be applied to both sexes. I’m not saying that there aren’t differences between how males and females think – but there are some fundamentals in human instinct that ignore age, gender, and culture lines.
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Dex, First Rule in the Tao of Steve