Sometimes it is easier to be angry then it is to be hurt.
5 thoughts on “Different Pain”
That is true for most people, D’jaevle. It’s one reason why we humans fight too much and love too little.
Angers masks the hurt but the hurt is still there buried underneath.
Oooh. It’s not that complicated of a thought, yet I have not read it before, nor thought of it. It’s true. Thank you for that.
Mostly when you don’t want the other person to know how deeply they can cut you with one single action. But this begs the quesiton, can you reach that level of where you are honest with yourself, let go of the anger and admit the hurt? Why is this such a hard question? Because you run the risk of exposing your soft, pink, underbelly. What will the other person do with it, when they see you cut down to your most desperate self?
In my experience, though, only then does the deepest understanding and communication happen. That is delicious because the intimacy that blooms from that is unparalleled.
Yes.
It is a terrible truth and inveterate tendency within myself that leads me down the path of anger first. Any self-perceived flaw in my shell is filled with anger first and foremost, no matter how obvious or ill concealed my attempts may be.
As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized the reflex, and can, for the most part, know when it is happening in the effort to have some measure of control over it.
That is true for most people, D’jaevle. It’s one reason why we humans fight too much and love too little.
Angers masks the hurt but the hurt is still there buried underneath.
Oooh. It’s not that complicated of a thought, yet I have not read it before, nor thought of it. It’s true. Thank you for that.
Mostly when you don’t want the other person to know how deeply they can cut you with one single action. But this begs the quesiton, can you reach that level of where you are honest with yourself, let go of the anger and admit the hurt? Why is this such a hard question? Because you run the risk of exposing your soft, pink, underbelly. What will the other person do with it, when they see you cut down to your most desperate self?
In my experience, though, only then does the deepest understanding and communication happen. That is delicious because the intimacy that blooms from that is unparalleled.
Yes.
It is a terrible truth and inveterate tendency within myself that leads me down the path of anger first. Any self-perceived flaw in my shell is filled with anger first and foremost, no matter how obvious or ill concealed my attempts may be.
As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized the reflex, and can, for the most part, know when it is happening in the effort to have some measure of control over it.