Happiness, to me, is found in freedom. In being unburdened. In letting go.
At least, I wish it were that simple. I don’t want to let go of all attachments. My job pays for my house which keeps me relatively dry on most days and provides a home for my cats (I just stay here at their discretion). My friends keep me sane. My books and music keep me entertained.
So what I really mean to say, is happiness is freedom from concern.
With a submissive, this is a joy I grant them. I gently and roughly remove the weight of everything but me. I empty them of everything but their sense of self and fill those spaces with the echoes of my presence and words. I make them free, for those moments they are with me.
How does this dominant find this freedom? The easy, mundane, answer is this: I let go. One particularly effective mediatitve technique for relaxing the body is to imagine each muscle, tense it slightly to *know* where it is, and then relax it. Start at the bottom and work your way up to your head. Every muscle. Every place of tension.
Now apply this to your meeting next week. That bill you haven’t yet paid. Your friend who is sick. Find that feeling, experience it – and then let it go.
That is how I free myself.