For completions sake, here are the other two rules in the Tao of Steve. Before reading this, I strongly encourage you to take a look at the thoughtful comments left in the previous post.
Let me start with these often uttered words: “Nice guys finish last, assholes get the women.” Like most well-used phrases there is some truth to it, but the reality is much more complex. An idea I think that holds more weight is this: Nice guys that have no problems meeting women are those that understand why the not-so nice guys can be so attractive.
When I am taking someone down, I am not being nice.
When I tie someone to my bed, I am not being accommodating.
When I am forcing them to undress in front of me, I am not being fair.
When I making someone beg, I am not being considerate.
When I am whipping or spanking them, I am not being gentle.
This does not mean I am not taking into account how comfortable they are. It does not mean that I am ignoring their well-being. And it does not stop me from being a gentleman.
What it does mean is that I understand that there is a time and place for cruelty.
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Rule Two: Do Something Excellent in her Presence.
Believe it or not, this is actually quite easy. Here are few good ways for a man to be Excellent:
– Be funny.
– Be a gentleman. Know what wine goes with each meal. Stand when she leaves the table. Pull her chair out for her.
– Be attentive. Look into her eyes. Not in that eerie ‘why is he staring at me’ way, but in a fashion that makes it clear that she has all of your attention. The difference between the two is in the timing.
– Be intelligent. Articulate your thoughts in a clear and well-defined manner. But be careful here – there is a thin line between cleverness and arrogance. Witty is hot. Twitty is not.
– Fix her car.
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Dex, Second Rule in Tao of Steve
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Rule Three: Retreat
This harkens back to the first rule. Control your desire. Make her come to you – don’t go to her.
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Dex, Third Rule in Tao of Steve
Rules. Are also made to be broken.
Mmmmmm….rules breaking. Like the smack of an open palm on my exposed ass….
Yes.
Rules are meant to be broken.
But – not all rules should be broken all the time or they become irrelevant. They must have context; a rule broken too many times loses it’s impact. There are times that I find a well-turned ankle under a long skirt to be more enticing then the expanses of skin revealed by knee-length skirts.
Finding the right rules to break is half the fun…
That is the point. Finding which rules should be broken and which are more delicious to be held to.